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LGBTQ Affirming Therapy

LGBTQ Affirming Therapy in California for Couples and Individuals

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LGBTQ Affirming Therapy

Online LGBTQ Affirming Therapy in California

Therapy for the Part of You That’s Never Felt Enough

I’m a gay, neurodivergent therapist in California who helps smart, sensitive men & individuals build self-worth, reduce anxiety, and create meaningful relationships. I work especially well with those who feel like “misfit toys” and appear successful on the outside, but are overwhelmed, ashamed, or disconnected underneath. Using a blend of IFS, ACT, and experiential therapy, I offer a grounded, affirming space to untangle what’s not working and find out what is.
Gay Therapist in California
As an LGBTQ+ affirming and openly gay neurodivergent therapist, I’m here to create a space where you can finally exhale—because let’s face it, being part of the LGBTQ+ and/or neurodivergent community can come with its own set of challenges (and you shouldn’t have to explain the basics to your therapist). I have extensive experience working with gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender, and non-binary individuals and couples.

If you’ve tried therapy before and felt like your therapist “just didn’t get it,” I totally understand how disheartening that can be. My goal is to help you feel safe, seen, and supported—whether you’re navigating anxiety, identity questions, relationship conflicts, or trying to manage life as a neurodivergent adult just doing their best. Looking for an LGBTQ+ affirming couples therapist that understands the unique aspects of your relationship? I got you covered.

Let’s work together to tackle what’s holding you back so you can finally move forward.
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Reach out today for a free consultation using the "Request Appointment" button—it’s the first step toward a happier, more authentic you. ​
Individual Therapy
I offer LGBTQ+ affirming therapy for a variety of common issues including:
  • Depression & Anxiety
  • Trauma 
  • Adults with ADHD
  • Gay Men's Issues
  • Break up Recovery
  • Difficulty with being assertive/People Pleasing
  • History of Toxic Relationships
  • Self-Esteem and Shame
  • Grief & Loss
Couples Therapy
If you are feeling caught in an endless cycle of arguments over and over again, Couples Therapy can be a helpful tool to stop it dead in its tracks. Imagine feeling connected again like it was before....it's still possible and I'd love to help you get there.
My approach is based on Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy which is a widely recognized evidence based approach for improving communication and intimacy. Couples counseling sessions are conducted with both you and your partner in a supportive place to discuss issues and most importantly solutions to strengthen  your relationship.
  • Specialization in Gay and Lesbian Relationships
  • Communication Issues 
  • Improve physical intimacy and sex life
  • Couples navigating a partner's transition process 
  • Navigating open/poly relationships (I love helping couples learn how to open up their relationship in a healthy way!) 

Online Therapy for Gay Men in California

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(949) 441-2290
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Evening & Weekend Appointments Available
Telehealth appointments are conducted using a HIPAA compliant platform
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Ryan Borland is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist LMFT134984

Offering Therapy for Gay Men, LGBTQ+ Individuals, and LGBTQ+ Couples in California. Specializing in anxiety, ADHD, trauma, and self-esteem challenges unique to gay men and the LGBTQ+ community.
Online ​LGBTQ+ affirming counseling and therapy in California, Temecula, Riverside, Menifee, Murrietta, San Francisco, Palm Springs, West Hollywood, San Diego, and San Bernardino. 

949-441-2290
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